Wednesday, 14 February 2018


Hi everyone, hope you all had a great pancake day - I know I did. It was well timed this year, being the day before Valentine's Day, a day that I know a lot of people hate. I wouldn't say I'm among the haters, but I don't like what it tends to represent and what it ends up being about. I think love is something that should be expressed always and it shouldn't be down to one day to make a big gesture. It's a day all about romantic love and it can make you feel a little less for not having that.

Therefore, I honestly don't think there's a better day of the year to think about self-love than Valentine's Day.

Love is love, so if that's what we're celebrating today, then let's celebrate our love for ourselves.

I started thinking about Valentine's Day this way last year in particular. I have no bitterness or anger or sadness on this day anyway - if you're in a relationship and you want to show that off today, then go ahead. But if you're not in a relationship, maybe show off your love for yourself a little today. Last year I treated myself to a perfume I love - ironically a Valentino perfume - and it reminded me that I deserve nice things, even if I'm buying them for myself. This year I've treated myself to this gorgeous Monica Vinader ring (pictured above), which I've been lusting after for months. I've always been a very self-sufficient woman and in recent years I've truly embraced my love for myself, whether that's shown in flowers or a gift or an evening in by myself when I really need one

 So today I'm here to remind you that even if you don't have a significant other, you are worthy and you are loved and you deserve joy, no matter how that joy comes to you or who instigates it.

I love that I don't need a man in my life to feel happy and to feel content with myself. I know a lot of people who value their self-worth based on whether or not they've got a boyfriend or girlfriend and it breaks my heart. Being single isn't a bad thing - not even on Valentine's Day.

Being single has taught me just how great I am by myself; it's shown me that I don't need someone by my side laughing to make me funny; it's shown me that I can progress as an individual; it's shown me I can eat in a restaurant by myself and have a great time; it's shown me that I can bring a smile to my own face. It's shown me that I don't need to depend on anyone, and I am truly grateful for that.

So I just wanted to write this post today, to remind you that you are great all by yourself, and you should love yourself, today, tomorrow, and everyday of your life. My realisation of my self-love completely changed how I see myself and how I feel about myself. I feel strong and powerful and happy, and I know that the people around me see me this way too.

All because, one day, a few years ago, I decided that I loved myself.

And I'm never going back.

Until next time.

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